As you can imagine with 2 boys…one 12 and the other 14 there are quite a few disputes around our house. I usually do a pretty awesome job of ignoring the rivalry but the other day…was not like any other day.
It seemed like an ordinary day…work, grocery store…and then on home to continue my evening duties. As I pulled into the garage…they couldn’t get out the door fast enough. the words couldn’t come out of their mouths fast enough.
He done this. But he started it. He called me a name. No, I didn’t. He shoved me…both innocent of any wrongdoing.
I calmly listened to each version of what had just taken place. And then I calmly rounded up every device I could find in their rooms. TV’s, iPads and cell-phones.
With panicked eyes they asked when they would get their belongings back and I didn’t have an answer. I was keeping them until…the constant fighting ended, they could function doing something other than having some sort of device crammed in their face, the back-talking stopped, the attitudes were gone…
Now, I absolutely hate, hate, hate with all my soul to have to discipline the boys. But I have to. God has chosen me to be their mentor. To guide them through life. And to discipline them if needed.
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. Proverbs 13:24
After I got over the guilt…and they got over the misery of not having anything to do…life has been pretty pleasant. The youngest completed a near 300 page book. And the oldest broke out a board game that hasn’t seen the light of day since who knows when.
And they’re still alive! It hasn’t killed them like they thought it may.
Now, would the book reading and board game playing have happened had they had their TV’s, iPads or cell-phones…I will go out on a limb and say probably not. So this hasn’t been such a bad thing after all. Maybe they will get their stuff back soon but until then I’m going to enjoy the peace and enjoy seeing them do something besides having their noses stuck in some sort of device.
At the time of this post they have received their TV’s back…but only to watch at bedtime <– that has been the biggest torture out of it all.
Have you ever had to take things away from your kids for punishment? What type of discipline works best for you?