Authentic Friendships…We All Need Them

Several months ago I attended a class on Sunday evening with the same very special lady that had done the Calm My Anxious Heart book study.

Let me tell you guys. She is inspiring. encouraging. and motivating. And I have grown so much personally and spiritually because of her.

She is also a blogger over on her little corner of the world-wide-web…Blessings Beyond The Barnyard.

Now back about the class. The class didn’t really have a format. We were going to do personality test. Tell our life-story (how much ever we felt comfortable sharing). There were several churches represented and we just gathered and learned and shared together as women.

Week 5 is when most of us shared our stories. And let me tell you what I learned. We are all hurting. We all have a story. None of our stories were the same but we were all hurting.

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God has given us brothers and sisters so we don’t have to go through life alone. Life is hard. And we need to have authentic friendships to make it through.

So many times it’s hard to have friendships with women. Because women can be mean. Women can be vicious. Women will slice and dice you the first chance they get. And I’ve been guilty of it myself. We all have. But let’s end it now. All the gossip, the back-stabbing, the slandering. It’s no good for any of us.

It’s okay to not be friends with everyone. But let’s be nice to everyone. And it’s okay if we don’t invite everyone over for dinner. But let’s go out of our way to help someone else in need.

We need women we can talk to and trust. Because being a woman can be hard at times…and only other women understand.

We all need authentic friendships.

 

Do you have authentic friendships? I am working on building more authentic, intentional friendships myself.

 

Work. Chores. Repeat. Work. Chores. Repeat.

Do you ever feel like you’re running on a treadmill? No change of scenario. Just the same ole’ thing…everyday.

Lately, I have. And obviously so have a lot of my fellow friends.

How did we end up in this rut? Getting comfortable and lazy with our lives. And instead of truly living, we are living in what I call survival mode.

Do you know what I’m talking about? Have you been there? Are you there now?

Well, I’m here to tell you (and myself)…there is more to life than work and chores. All week long I work. Go home. Do household chores. And repeat. Monday thru Friday…that is my life.

Sad. I know.
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So…a week or so ago our local drive-in (Henagar Drive-In Theater) had a customer appreciation night. They were playing Transformer 4. It was free. The kicker…it was on a Tuesday night. And it started at roughly 8:30. And the movie itself was 2 hours and 45 minutes long. And my alarm clock would be going off at approxiamately 5:25 a.m. the following morning.

Needless to say, I gathered the boys and their friends and we went and watched Transformer 4. On a Tuesday night. It may have been after midnight before I was snug in my bed but we did it. We had a good time and it didn’t kill me.

My point in saying all this is…my mind was telling me not to go to the movie. That I would get home late. And I would be extremely ill the following day at work.

But I did. And it felt good to get out of our usual routine.

Go out and try something new. Do something different. Just do something besides the usual…work and chores. It makes for a much better life.

And in the end we are all happier.

 

Do you ever get in a rut? What do you do to get yourself out of it? Please share, I’d love to hear from you.

 

Did you think I was gone for good?

Did you think I was gone for good? It’s summer-time at my house and that makes for long and busy days.

We’ve spent every chance we could at the lake. soaking up the sun. listening to music. That’s what we love to do!

We are getting ready to take a family vacation to Orange Beach, AL for a week and I am beyond ready.

Have I told you lately how much I love my family. They are my rock. And my husband is absolutely the best.

I have really been rocking my Origami Owl business and am so excited to be on this journey. I woke up the other morning to 3 FB messages of strangers interested in ordering. How awesome is that?!

My oldest will be getting his braces off tomorrow! He is going to love his pearly whites!

My husband has a friend that tends to forget he has a wife and sends him inappropriate text saying…you need to be here, there’s a** everywhere and hey man, you wanna come have a beer with me. i’m with my girl and some of her hot-a** friends are here. Yeah. Luckily, my hubby knows where his bread is buttered and is not interested but seriously dude, have a little respect before you lose your friend.

I have been such a slacker when it comes to church. I am there every Sunday teaching the 1st graders in Children’s Church but I am not sure the last time I have actually made it to early service  :(  I need to get better about this…I feel like I am sliding.

I noticed the other day my oldest (14 y.o.) has some arm-pit hair coming in. Holy cow! What do I do? Do I do anything? Say anything? Yikes. I don’t know what to say to boys.

Work has been slow but is starting to pick up and I am so not motivated. I am ready for my vacation!

Until next time…

 

 

Decisions and Dreams.

In 2010 I had the opportunity to sign up to become a 31 Independent Consultant. That continued for about 3 years. I earned  extra money, got tons of bags and loved it. When we bought our first house I called it quits to focus on making our new house a home.

Fast forward to now.

Several weeks ago a lady had brought Origami Owl to my attention. I didn’t think much about but did know a couple things…

  1. there are not a lot of Designers in the area.
  2. I only know of 1 person that has ever purchased OO.
  3. OO is a fairly new direct sales company.

So I went to my go-to friend…Google…and looked up Origami Owl. I read about it. Browsed Designers Facebook pages. And even decided to email a lady that I had come across while on FB.

She was awesome. Responding immediately to my emails even though she was out-of-town. She had my excitement building. I day-dreamed about being successful. about building a huge team of my own. about having jewelry bars at least once a week.

But now here I am…wondering, second-guessing myself. Do I have time for this? Would anyone even be interested? Is this about me or Him?

Ugh. I am not a decision maker. I see all my dreams coming true with something like this. But I also see failure.

#decisions #whatshouldido

Confused. Overwhelmed.

Lately I have been trying to be patient. Waiting on His timing and His purpose for my life.

Although, at times I feel like a sitting duck and that I should be out there exploring.

I don’t know what I want. I have a vision of what I think I want. But is it what God wants.

I’m confused. Overwhelmed at times. And feel like I need to hurry up and do whatever it is that He wants me to do. #tiredofwastingtime

What is that exactly? I don’t know.

With a family and a full-time job…I feel limited to what I can do.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I’m continuing to pray about it and hoping in the end all I’ve done is glorified Him.

#livingGodslife

 

 

 

 

We Tied The Knot…And About The Past Month

So it’s been nearly a month since my last post. I know…S-L-A-C-K-E-R. But I’m okay with it. So much has happened the past month and I have just been enjoying it.

1.) WE FINALLY TIED THE KNOT. And then spent the weekend in Gatlinburg. We have been together for 6 1/2 years. Lived together 5 years. Bought our 1st car 2 1/2 years ago. Bought our first home a year ago. Adopted our first 4-legged child 8 months ago. And our second 4-legged child 6 months ago. So I think it was time. Plus, the man upstairs had really been convicting me for several months about our situation…I plan to write about that in another post.

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Fun Food Ideas for St. Patrick’s Day

If you are like me, about the only thing that happens on St. Patrick’s Day is I try to wear a little green. And that’s about it. Pretty lame, huh?. But this year I am going to spice it up a bit and have a little food fun by making something special.

Check out these fun ideas that I found while searching for St. Patty’s Day food…{click on the images for more details}

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{Shamrock Rice Krispy Treats}

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Community Service Challenge

Want to help out in your community but not sure what to do? Here are a few simple suggestions to get you started…

    • Take photos during an event and donate them to the event organizers.
    • Work with physically challenged kids on an art project.
    • With the help of family and friends, hold a summertime play or songfest at a nursing home.
    • Take toys to children in the hospital.
    • Grow fresh flowers and deliver them to someone to brighten their day.
    • Build a ramp for a person in a wheelchair.
    • Volunteer at your local animal shelter.
    • Alter and repair clothes for the needy.
    • Clean up trash along the river or in a park.
    • Make “I Care” kits with combs, toothbrushes, shampoo, etc. for the homeless.
    • Deliver meals to home-bound individuals.
    • Become a foster parent to a pet.
    • Collect grocery coupons to give to the local food bank.
    • Form a volunteer lawn mowing service with your friends.
    • Donate art supplies to kids in a homeless shelter.
    • Offer to pick up groceries for your neighbor.
    • Help with repairs at a local homeless shelter.
    • Help your neighbors paint and repair their homes.
    • Do art projects with people in the nursing home (even if it’s just finger-painting).
    • Collect supplies for persons who have been in a fire or natural disaster.
    • Offer to read to people in a nursing home.
    • Help fix a run-down playground.
    • Organize a pet show for a local nursing home.
    • Plant a community garden.
    • With the support of a vet clinic, organize a neuter and spay campaign to get animals neutered and spayed at a reduced rate.
    • Build park benches.
    • Rake leaves, shovel snow, clean gutters or wash windows for a senior citizen.
    • Prepare sack lunches and deliver them to the homeless.

Challenge time: Complete 1 idea from this list or any other type of community service and email your story and 1 picture to tonileake@yahoo.com by March 24th. I will feature all community service stories in a post on March 31st.

Get out there and do something for your community! I can’t wait to hear your story!
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Calm My Anxious Heart – Chapter Eight

My schedule for doing these chapter reviews have gotten a little wacky lately but here we are at Chapter 8.

Worry Is Like A Rocking Chair

Worry is like a rocking chair; it will give you something to do but it won’t get you anywhere.

Isn’t that the truth. Worry doesn’t get us anywhere. It doesn’t solve the problem. It doesn’t keep the problem from happening. It changes nothing. All it does is gives us something to do.

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